How To Overcome Attachment
How To Overcome Attachment
Attachment, expectations associated with specific outcome. Attachment associated with certain people, material things, money or whatever we’ve no control over. One of the major cause of unhappiness. Desire for a person, for material things, for money and so on. Desire leads to attachments. We become attached to a person, attached to money, or to any material thing(car, house..). Desire, attachments are fleeting and we spend a lot of our time and energy in pursuit of them, thus robbing us of our time which we should pay to a really important thing in life. The way to happiness is to eliminate desire and the way to eliminate desire is to eliminate attachments.
Though, being unattached doesn’t mean being disinterested or removed, rather, it means remaining neutral in your judgements of circumstances and in your desire for a specific outcome. If your goal is to own a nice car, it’s natural and right for you to pursue that goal. The key to happiness, however, lies in your ability to hold it lightly to the image of yourself reaching that goal. In doing so you will feel peaceful in your situation regardless of the outcome. Unattachment means you are not bound by your expectations of how things should turn out, and that you are willing to let go.
But, how should I let go of things? How should I practice unattachment? Please follow these steps to get rid of desire, get rid of attachments.
- Notice what you want and acknowledge the outcome you’re attached to.
- Imagine the ideal outcome of your situation, and then imagine the worst-case scenario. Doing this bring any hidden fear to light and makes it acceptable for the outcome to go either way.
- Make a clear statement to the universe by writing out your desire clearly or saying it out loud.
- In your mind, create the image of you holding the intention lightly in the palm of your hand, with your fingers held loosely open.
- Mentally release the desire out into the universe, trusting that whatever outcome you receive will be the right one. You can use the visualization of placing your wish in a helium balloon and allowing the balloon to drift up and away. Actually see yourself letting go of the attachment.
If your desire is for financial prosperity, your first step would be to notice your desire acknowledge any attachments you’ve to achieving such prosperity. Perhaps you envision in your mind’s eye an easier life, filled with abundant luxuries and many hours of free time, and you believe that financial prosperity will afford you that life. Become very clear in your mind about the outcome you believe you will experience if you realize your desire.
Run your mind through the worst-case scenario. What would happen if you did not achieve financial prosperity? Take this to the furthest extreme you can imagine, even it sounds far-fetched and irrational. Doing this will bring your deepest fears and belifs to light and give them less of a hold over you.
Next, put your intention of achieving financial properity out into the universe, through mental images, thoughts words – perhaps even in writing. Be specific and clear about what you want.
Third, conjure up the picture in your mind of you holding financial prosperity lightly in the palm of your hand, with your fingers outstretched.
Then release your desire out into the universe, mentally envisioning it encased in a helium balloon, floating away. Remain anchored in the knowledge that whatever outcome you receive will ultimately be for the best.
Pay attention to the motivations behind your attachments. And keep your eyes wide open for gifts from the universe, as they sometimes come in unexpected packages.
“the tragedy of an attachment is that if its object is not attained it causes unhappiness. But if it is attained, it does not cause happiness – it merely causes a flash of pleasure followed by weariness, and it is always accompanied, of course, by the anxiety that you may lose the object of your attachment.” – Anthony DeMello